For many mothers around the world, ‘babywearing‘ – using a baby sling to carry your infant close to you –for the first time feels very natural. Chances are they have seen their mothers, grandmothers, aunts, and friends carrying their children. Many of them will have even carried younger siblings. For mothers in the Western world, ‘babywearing‘ is an acquired skill. Hopefully by the time the next generation comes along, both mums and dads will be used to seeing babies carried in slings and will be able to naturally learn from us.
So how do you learn ‘babywearing‘ and carrying your child in a baby sling if you’ve never seen any one?
Our website as an article one ‘tips for a first time baby wearer‘. We hope you find it useful. Here are a few – more personal – ideas.
- Take your time, be gentle and patient with yourself. You didn’t learn to ride a bike in a day, breastfeeding might have been tricky at first. Even being a mother can feel a bit daunting and confusing in the first days or months. It’s OK. We don’t have to have all the answers at once, even if we sometimes feel that everyone else seems to. Don’t be pressured into anything that doesn’t feel right. Take a moment to close your eyes, breathe, and listen to what your body and your instincts are saying.
- It can be a good idea to stay away from well-meaning friends, relatives or even strangers who undermine your confidence as a new-mother. Instead, cultivate the friendship of find like-minded people who support your choices. If you have joined a baby group that doesn’t make you feel welcome, good, and supported, then ask your Health Visitor if there is another group in the area who might be more sympathetic.
- Learn from other babywearing parents. If you know anyone in your area who uses a baby sling, don’t hesitate to ask for help. Even if you don’t know them very well, most people are delighted to share their knowledge and their tips. Sling Meet can help you find a group of baby wearing parents.
We’d love to hear from you and read your stories. What helped you become a more confident babywearing mother?